There will be days when you need to redirect your recovery journey
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As someone who has been recovering for nearly 30 years, I have found that there will be days when things don’t go as planned. Maybe your job isn’t going the way you planned and you haven’t gotten the promotion you thought you deserved. The important thing is not to fall back into a life of addiction.
One of the main things a person in recovery needs to remember is to focus on what they have accomplished. When you find yourself in trouble, remember what it was like before your recovery began. It could have been when your excessive drinking nearly killed you. Maybe you woke up in a strange place. I have always taught the clients I work with that their addiction will take them further than they want to, make them do things they would never do, and become the person they never wanted to be.
People in recovery need to remember what it was like when they were at the worst point of their addiction. They need to focus on where they are currently in their recovery process. It’s better than active addiction. There will always be times when there are problems at work, in a relationship, or in life in general. However, none of this was worse than being in the nightmare of going through life in an active zombie-like state of addiction.
Another way to deal with this better is to not let yourself fall into the negativity of life. You can’t go through life comparing your recovery to someone else’s. If you’re having trouble getting through the first few days and you see someone who just celebrated a year of recovery, don’t be mad at where you are. Be happy for them and realize that it is possible. As individuals in recovery, we are fighting the same war. We’re just at different points in our battle.
People recovering must be willing to focus on the HALT philosophy. Originating from the Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) program, HALT is one of the sayings of AA and is a useful acronym for identifying potential triggers for relapse. HALT stands for Hungry, Angry, Lonely and Tired. When things go wrong, one of the factors is the root cause of the triggers and cravings you feel. You need to examine yourself to see if you fall into any of these four categories. Remember that doing a HALT registration will not solve all your problems. However, this will allow you to cope with all cravings and cravings.
People in recovery cannot be overwhelmed. By that, I mean not taking on too many tasks at once. It often happens that they take on as many projects as they can, regardless of the circumstances. The problem with that might be something to burn them. People in recovery must learn to be prepared to go at their own pace. Just as recovery happens one day at a time, you have to be prepared to take on your tasks one at a time and not allow yourself to overdo it.
Another way is that individuals must be willing to help others, so that they can help themselves. If you are recovering, you need to get out of your comfort zone to help the person who has just recovered on the right path. Another way is to keep your focus on yourself. There are times when you will have to do whatever it takes to hit your reset button. On days when you’re at work, do a wellness checkup to avoid falling back into old habits. Some days you have to turn off your brain to fully appreciate the moment as it comes.
In 2018 I experienced one of the darkest days of my life when I lost my 15 year old daughter in the tragedy of suicide. I could have easily given in to my alcohol demons instead of warding off all the cravings and cravings. I had to make sure I contacted someone who would hold me accountable and not leave me to my ways, which proved vital in my journey.
One of the last things I might recommend in this area is to be prepared for therapy to help you avoid using when the cravings and cravings are the strongest. There will be times when you feel you need an outside source that will be an additional resource to continue living a life of recovery.
Your task is to make an effort to stay sober. You will have to constantly work on yourself to realize the value of recovery and you are worth it. You will still need to read the whole story and remember where your drug or alcohol addiction has taken you. It’s about doing everything in your power to never get close enough to give in to using it again.